Afterthoughts.
AFTERTHOUGHTS is a new category on Fresh Bride. Here, you will find creative ways to keep the spirit of your ceremony alive after the wedding day is over. Starts tomorrow!
AFTERTHOUGHTS is a new category on Fresh Bride. Here, you will find creative ways to keep the spirit of your ceremony alive after the wedding day is over. Starts tomorrow!
Are you wedded to life? What do you most love about life that keeps you wedded to it -- on the best of days and on your worst days? Your answer can help you write your vows.
- Write out a list of the ways in which you are wedded to life -- the things that motivate, excite and challenge you -- and then read your list to your partner.
Now, if you ask your partner if he/she is willing to support you in bringing your list to life, the answer will probably be "yes." Generally, if couples are getting married, they are comfortable professing their love and support for each other. But the conscious couple will delve into the question of how exactly are you going to demonstrate your love, day in and day out?
- One means of getting to the answer is to tell your partner what you know already about how you like to be nurtured. And then invite your partner to see if he or she can think of additional ways to support you in living your life fully. Make a list of the results to include in your vows.
Now when you promise to love your partner forever, you can substantiate that promise with the many ways in which you aim to do that. And with your vows, you'll create stronger building blocks for marriage.
Give your rings the personal touch they deserve! One couple I know met during travels in India. When he returned to his hometown of Milan, Italy, and she returned to California, they resumed contact through email which led to trips to visit each other and eventually marriage. So for their wedding ceremony, they decided to take an old laptop computer and cut out the center keys. In the space created, a vibrant piece of fabric was laid in for the wedding rings. The ring bearer carried the laptop to the bride and groom just before they said their vows and ceremoniously opened it to reveal the sparkling wedding bands.
Instead of the traditional ring pillow, consider a personal alternative limited only by your imagination:
- decoupage a treasure box with photocopies of a love letter from your fiance
- tie your rings with ribbon to a beautiful stone or piece of tumbled glass you found on a beach walk together
- make a cut out in the center of your favorite book of poetry
- use that fabulous bird's nest your kitty found in the backyard
- put your rings in an exquisite, heirloom evening bag (a good way to honor the grandma's memory without having to say a word)
- use a small, artsy, blown-glass bowl that you can later fill with candy kisses and keep out on the coffee table